Together at the Wedding — A TOCA Pet Wedding Planner

A thoughtful planner for including your pet in your wedding — in a way that fits the animal you actually know.

Nora had imagined a photograph with her dog beneath the arch. At the venue, the path was narrower than she remembered and the speakers stood beside it. She kept the photograph on her list but changed where it would happen. Together at the Wedding helps you choose attendance, a brief appearance, or a meaningful presence from home — and plan the people, timing and alternatives that make it work.

What you get

• The fillable planner (PDF) — 17 pages in US Letter and A4. Type into it in Adobe Acrobat Reader or macOS Preview, or print it and write by hand.
• 12 guided planning pages with 36 answer fields: the kind of inclusion that fits, asking the venue precisely, the person who has the lead, a schedule with a way out, travel and the handover, the quiet part of the day, photographs without a performance, included from home, the small-details budget, if the plan changes, the wedding-day care card, and what we want to remember.
• Ready-to-adapt messages for the venue, the photographer and a caregiver handover.
• Three wedding cards to fill in and print: “A place in our story”, “Loved at home”, and “A little quiet, please” for the resting area.
• Optional browser version of the planner and cards (ZIP) for typing on a computer.

Built on real sources

Background guidance is referenced to Dogs Trust's advice on planning a dog-friendly wedding, with a link. Dogs Trust has not reviewed or endorsed TOCA.

What it isn't

A planner for household pets and voluntary participation — not veterinary, behavioral, legal or venue-access advice, and it does not determine assistance-animal access rights. Being represented by a portrait is a complete form of inclusion; some pets are happier at home. The attendance examples focus on dogs; cats and other animals need species-appropriate advice. The text and cover were created with AI tools and edited by TOCA; no independent veterinary or legal review is claimed.

Practical details

• Three files (US Letter PDF and A4 PDF, about 4.3 MB each; browser planner ZIP), delivered by email right after checkout
• Share completed pages with your caregiver, coordinator, venue and photographer
• English (US). Digital files only; no physical product is shipped. No professional service is included.
• For personal household use. Please don't share, resell or redistribute the files.

Planning another busy day at home? See When the House Gets Loud. For the memories afterwards, see Our Life Together.

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